Absolutes by definition are “that which exists without being dependent on anything else.” (Google)
So many people try to live in a world of black or white and I am not talking ethnicity. Although, this type of predominate thinking can add to prejudices in the world, at least in my opinion. I am talking about thinking, feelings, actions, philosophy, right and wrong. The whole “it’s my way or the highway” mentality. Or there is only ONE right answer or ONE correct way of doing things. Well let me burst that bubble, right here, right now. Life is about the shades of gray. And I am not talking about some sexual predisposition of sadomasochism or domination that is another post entirely. (But hey, whatever floats your boat, if all agree… GO FOR IT!) :)
I am talking about what I believe to be a narrow-mindedness that limits people’s ability to experience life in such richness and depth. Seeing and acknowledging the gray allows for a greater understanding of other people, cultures, philosophy, perspective, I mean you can go on and on.
I am drawing from my personal experiences and my observations over the years. When push comes to shove our world is less and less absolutes and a lot more gray then a lot of people are willing to see or admit. And here is the irony of it all... the more gray you are willing to acknowledge in your life, the brighter and more colorful it becomes. I see it all the time with students I have taught. Inevitably, someone, a student is so upset because their perception of an incident is so absolute. Their world gets turn upside down and it makes for an emotional day, week or whatever. The more unwilling the kid is to see the gray the longer the angst and hurt. The more willing to see the gray, the quicker the hurt dissipates and most times it forms into a greater understanding or at the very least it cracks the door to becoming more openminded.
People we need the gray to see the depths of intent, emotions, thoughts, perspectives and circumstances. Hmmmm... The next time you are feeling rigid... I hope you look for the shades of gray and may your world blossom.
Deaf Girl Amy